By now you’ve probably seen the hashtag #everyBODYisflawless popping up. Blogger GabiFresh created the tag and accompanying video with two other bloggers saying this,
“…you don’t have to be a certain size to claim your flawlessness. Fat is not a flaw. This video is dedicated to the mainstream media, to the fashion industry, to internet bullies, and to anyone else who thinks it’s their right to try to make us feel less than because of their insecurities. #everyBODYisflawless”
I really appreciated her message about body positivity, inclusion, and not being a certain size. I find the #everyBODYisflawless tag appropriate and a
positive message to all. Women come in all shapes and sizes. Skinny women can sometimes feel the same rejection and ridicule that plus size women face.
Comments such as “She needs a sandwich” or “She’s not a REAL woman” are just as hurtful as “Go on a diet.” I remember struggling in my own youth to gain weight to look more like my curvier peers. Not every thin woman is on a diet or starving herself. There are women that are naturally slim and they don’t deserve hate any more than larger women. Model Coco Rocha has spoken about her frustration with this same issue. That while she would like to see more inclusion and diversity in sizes, shapes, and color of models, she is often frustrated at the implication that because she is naturally svelte she isn’t a “real woman”. Saying, “Last time I checked, I’m a real woman too.”
I haven’t been plus size my entire life. When I entered the plus community, I expected support and understanding. To my surprise, instead I initially found rejection and negativity. People made statements like, “You are not really plus-size.” My comments or thoughts were often rejected because “You are an acceptable fat.” My attempts at support were sometimes ridiculed because “You couldn’t possibly understand.” Despite being a size 16 (Two sizes bigger and one size smaller than two of the bloggers featured in this video), I wasn’t shaped in a way that many in the community found acceptable or rather, unacceptable enough by the “straight” size community. I honestly felt rejected by both.
I bring this up to bring attention to the fact that size discrimination is not something exclusive to the “straight” size community. Bloggers like Marie Denee from The Curvy Fashionista and Edith Dohmen from Style Has No Size have touched on this issue. Both have brought attention to the need for inclusion because not all plus-size women look alike or have the same issues and that, in fact, we need to do away with size judgement on both sides. Every woman should love and appreciate her own body because as Gabi says, every BODY is flawless.